Six surefire ways to ignite romance in your life this Diwali
Sex can permeate our popular culture, but conversations about it are always associated with stigma and shame in Indian households. As a result, most people who are facing sexual health issues or trying to find information about sex often resort to unverified online sources or follow the unscientific advice of their friends.
To combat widespread misinformation about sex, News18.com publishes this weekly sex column, titled “Let’s Talk Sex,” every Friday. We hope to start conversations about sex through this column and approach sexual health issues with scientific insight and nuance.
The column is written by sex therapist Prof (Dr) Saransh Jain. In today’s column, Dr. Jain provides tips for rekindling romance during Diwali.
Diwali may be a family occasion, but that doesn’t mean you are ignoring your romantic life during the holiday season. In fact, if you think about it, there is one great thing in common between Diwali and marriage – the two bring people together. Therefore, if you want to use this vacation time to reconnect and ignite some romance with your partner, here are some easy and safe ways to do it.
Organize a romantic dinner for your partner
You might not be the best cook and your husband / wife might be well aware of it, but you still get brownie points with food during festivals. So feed your partner, even if that means taking help from the Swiggy / Zomato delivery pals (we would tell your partner if you won’t). Everyone thinks of fonder thoughts when their stomachs are full and they have a glass of wine in their hands.
Think about your Diwali gift
Give your partner something that they really want, or have wanted for a while, but never bought it because they might have thought it was extravagant or unnecessary. If you give a thoughtful gift, which shows that you know the other person’s tastes and care enough about them to give them the thing or things the other person wants, then you automatically connect more deeply. Take that connection as a starting point and use the Diwali downtime to rekindle the old camaraderie and passion for each other.
Spice up the conversation
Just telling your partner that you are “ready for sex” may have worked the first time you met. But it’s highly unlikely that he’ll always give the same results at this point in your relationship. Spice up your conversations with teasing and loving conversations. Ease of ideas and thoughts. Make him feel sexy and loved, not just physically but emotionally as well.
Create a sexy bedroom environment to set the mood!
All I can say here is that candles and rose petals are a cliché as they’ve worked thousands of times before, and there’s a good chance they’ll do it this time around, too. But, if your partner finds it too old-fashioned, create a warm and cozy environment in the bedroom and hang out together. Things will surely heat up.
Cuddle and stay in bed
Hugs can work wonders, especially if you and your partner both have stressful jobs and don’t have enough time on normal days to connect physically, mentally, or emotionally. So if you don’t have a family to come, just plan a day in bed. Watch an old movie, cuddle all day and relax. When the stress goes away, the excitement becomes much easier.
Try the role play
Like I said before, it’s not for everyone, but it can add just the right amount of spark to a stammered sex life. Some all-time favorites are a nurse / doctor role or a boss / secretary role, but if you or your partner has another particular fantasy, let it go. See which one works best in your relationship and let go of your inhibitions. Communicate, be open about your desires and desires. Living in the Moment.